From the innermost part of You
I was born, and with Your
first thought of me, I was Yours.
You wrote my name in the Book of Life
and claimed me.
Father, I am Yours.
Make me the instrument of Your will.
Do with me as You will
On earth as well as in Heaven.

Show me Your ways, my Beloved.
Teach me Your path.
Lead me in Your truth and guide me.
I wait day and night for You.
Remember, O Jehovah
Your shining light and loving heart;
For it has ever been Your will
To bring the least of Your children to You.

From Moving at the Speed of Love

The Kingdom of Heaven is like teaching a man to fish by catching one for him.

Long Time No Write

It's been almost three years since I posted on this site. I've become part of a wonderful and loving church congregation here in Florence, Alabama called Followers of Christ Fellowship through the Stephen Gray Ministries. We specialize in Spirit-led discipleship, or in other words, showing Christians how to grow into the image of Christ by having a vibrant and active relationship with Him through revelation, prayer, even conversation. Jesus wants so much to talk with you! Much more about this later.

God has recently started me back on writing daily sonnets based on the insight He has given me through scripture. You can find me there every day at Moving at the Speed of Love. 

If you would like to contact me, feel free to email me at

Blessings and peace to you!


Roundabout or Bust



First of all, why do they say “______ or Bust”? I’d rather not bust at all, thank you.


Tomorrow (8-7-18) I’m leaving out here from Florence, Alabama and moseying via auto to Davenport, Iowa to visit my cousins and other sundry relatives. I would LOVE to see my wonderful, talented and beautiful 94-year-old Aunt June, but she’s in Virginia helping another cousin of mine recover from surgery. She gets around more than I do.


I’ll stay at my wonderful VERY talented and handsome cousin Dana’s home – he’s newly married to the wonderful, talented and beautiful Mariann – while there. We’ve working on the rough draft of what will be a spectacular screenplay about a female Iraqi Army veteran who has fallen through the cracks in the system and lives homeless and mentally unstable on the street of L.A.. Dana will retire (FINALLY) from his job as a steelworker, and then will be able to focus his creative energies into making films. This has been a longtime dream of his. Mine has been to be a writer. I’m living the dream right now, but am not quite yet in the top 2% that enjoy paychecks over $5,000 a year. But that’s ok. I love to write and will do so whether I get rich or bust.


From Dana’s I’ll be meandering over to Elkhart, Indiana to visit with and participate in the wedding of my wonderful, talented and stunningly beautiful adopted babygirl Laney Doolittle. At first I was just going to walk her down the aisle, but now I might walk her down the aisle AND officiate the wedding! I’ve been a minister of the Universal Life Church since 1998, and a minister of the Church of the Latter-Day Dude since last year. She will be marrying the wonderful, talented and handsome Rob Thorne, and I couldn’t be happier! I love weddings! Wedding receptions have the best food, next to a Baptist picnic.


From Laney and Rob’s wedding I’ll saunter up to Kalamazoo, Michigan to visit and abide with my wonderful, talented and beautiful daughter Andy and her wonderful, talented and beautiful significant other Lex (they are both transgender, so I intend on being schooled by them when I get there – still can’t honestly wrap my head around calling my little girl a man), my wonderful, talented and manly handsome son James Little and his wonderful, talented and beautiful wife (I would know her name, but it’s Spanish, and I can’t speak Spanish, at least not until after I get there) and my wonderful, talented and fantastic grandkids Chance and Skylar.  I used to live in Kalamazoo for quite a few years, even drove a taxi there, so I can get around without getting too lost.


From Andy and Jame’s homes I will sashay to Hamilton, Ohio to spend a few days with my wonderful, talented and somewhat handsome Army buddy Bob Rommes. We’ve known each other over 30 years, which is almost long enough for any friendship (give or take another 30 years). The last time we met, he beat me at chess after and long, bloody fight. At least we didn’t knock over any chess pieces in the process. He went out and bought a new couch for me to sleep on while in his man-cave, which is awesome! I told him that since we’ve known each other for so long we could at least share the same bed, but he’s not that comfortable in his masculinity yet.


Then back home. I’ll be gone for about 3 weeks, and will have used up just enough of my hosts’ hospitality for another couple of years (give or take a couple of years).


I’m not good with photography, but will try to take a picture here or there and share with you.


If you live along any of these routes and have a spare pizza, I’d love to slow down so you can throw it at me. I’ve got just enough money for gas and will rely on fresh roadkill along the way. Armadillo is incredible, possum is usually pretty tough, and squirrels really do taste just like chicken.

A New Post from Back of the Choir:

Meditation through the Devotional Method of Scripture Reading

Crucified with Christ

A new post from Back of the Choir

The Devotional Method of studying the Bible

Valley of the Shadow of Death Part Two

My story ended with an admission that I was still suicidal, but that I desperately wanted help and was dedicated to getting better no matter what the cost. I knew the first thing I had to do was to become completely honest about every aspect of my past and my life if I were to ever have a shot at pulling out of this death spiral. At the time of my telling I was an inpatient at the VA hospital psyche ward in Iowa City, Iowa.

But let me step back for just a moment to bring some perspective to what not only happened then, but before that and even now. The post titles are from the 4th verse of the 23rd Psalm, which says “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death…”. Note that it says I walk THROUGH the valley of the shadow of death. I don’t stop there and pitch a tent. And I’m not and wasn’t at the time alone, for the verse goes on to say “for Thou art with me…”. I may have felt alone, and may have felt I was going to end up in the valley of death forever, but I wasn’t. God had my back. He’s had my back since I gave my life to Christ on August 28, 2005. To be honest, (irony intended) when I gave the Sinner’s Prayer at the altar that sweltery Sunday morning, I had no idea what kind of effect it would have on my life, and that change wasn’t made manifest fully until I went from the milk of the Word to the meat of the Word. You see, shortly after becoming a Christian I got a job that required me to work on Sundays. I had absolutely no chance of being properly discipled. Oh, I read the Bible on occasion, and offered up a perfunctory short and elementary prayer when I thought of it – which was rarely – but I never grew. I never learned that even though I was ‘saved’, I still carried around a bus-full of false beliefs and profane thinking, believing I had that “Golden Ticket to Heaven” and that was all that mattered. The Holy Spirit was virtually ignored because I didn’t attune my spiritual ears to Him. Jesus promised in John 16:13 that the Holy Spirit would come to “guide you into all truth, for He will not speak on His own, but He will speak whatever He hears (from God the Father).” I still smoked weed and cigarettes. I still swore like a sailor. I still did whatever I wanted. I was one whom the apostle Paul talked about in Romans 10:3 when he said “For they being ignorant of God’s righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves unto the righteousness of God.”

I want to stop short of saying that I was a Christian by name only, because He was doing a great work in me, despite my being a mess. Did you know it took Moses 40 years before God told him he was ready to go free the children of Israel? God works on His time, not ours, and works at His pace in our lives, often letting us trip and stumble and fall and bruise ourselves before we finally turn to Him for help. He let me have a massive heart attack in 2010 as a warning, but other than giving up cigarettes I didn’t choose to lean into Him. Since I couldn’t work anymore I did start going to church on a fairly regular basis, but didn’t do anything more than sit in the pew and try to absorb what the pastor preached on Sunday morning. Oh, to be fair, I did join the church choir, I took over making the weekly bulletins, I rang the church bell after service and even tried my hand at being a Sunday School teacher. But I was in essence trying to establish my righteousness through works instead of surrendering myself absolutely to the Lord. Works without faith is futile. The best fifteen minutes of my life doesn’t compare in the least to the slightest amount of God’s splendid grace. For the sake of time, I believe this subject will be best expounded upon at a letter date. The bottom line is that I may have been moving, but I wasn’t getting anywhere, just like a hamster on a wheel.

Then in 2016 my sweet granddaughter Lulu came down with neuroblastoma cancer, and it rocked my world. I prayed more in those first six months than I had my entire life. Hundreds of churches around the world prayed for Lulu. Thousands lifted their voices to God, begging for my little 3-year-old grand baby to be healed. Now, two years later, with the help of those thousands as well as God guiding the minds and hands of her many doctors, Lulu is finally cancer free, although it and her treatments ravished her little body. I lost my way when Lulu became ill, a crisis of faith that would cause me to impulsively fly to the west coast and then to Iowa, plunging me into a deep depression that almost cost me my life. Yet unbeknownst to me, He was with me all the while, and he wasn’t done with me yet. There on the 8th floor of the Iowa City VA hospital the Holy Spirit was finally able to break through to my active consciousness, and lead me to the truth that I not only had to take on the mantle of honesty, but that the next phase of my life was to take place back in Alabama where I began my journey. I really didn’t know why, but I knew I had to go back. Knowing what I know now, I’m so glad I did.


When I was finally discharged from the hospital, I spent some time in the Quad Cities saying my goodbyes to my dear Aunt June and my cousins Monte and Dana. The most difficult parting was with Dana, because he is so dear to my heart. I’ve got tears in my eyes now from missing his precious presence. A part of me was ripped apart when I left him that late June day in 2017, and it won’t heal until I see him again, hopefully this August when I return for a visit. I went on to Kalamazoo to see my daughter Sandy (nee son Andy) and grandkids Chance and Skylar, then back to Alabama and found a one-bedroom apartment in Sheffield. I adopted my incredible companion Hacksaw


and began counseling and group sessions through the VA.

Now here is where the trajectory of my life changed forever. I met an incredible African-American woman Margaret Green who invited me to her church group called the Fellowship of Christ, part of the Stephen Gray Ministries. I started going and haven’t looked back. The first thing I learned was that in order to be a functioning and growing Christian, I had to be properly discipled, which first and foremost involved being able to have an active and vibrant relationship with God, able to hear from Him and follow his loving direction for my life. Key Term: Agape Love. With the help of a more mature Christian (Jay Eastland, may God bless and keep him in His grace!) I started identifying and removing the multitude of false beliefs and misconceptions that had been clouding my spiritual growth, and in doing so began to grow closer to the Lord – I wish I could say by leaps and bounds, but more like baby step by baby step. The fellowship of saints that we have are without exception the most loving, Christ-minded and God-centered people I’ve ever known.

For now I’m going to turn my website into a journal, an open meditation, an active prayer, and devotion to Jesus Christ, my Lord. I’d like to end this post with my favorite Bible verse, which through the guidance of the Holy Spirit, I’ll be expounding on. It is Galatians 2:20, which reads:

I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.


Valley of the Shadow of Death

I’ve been putting this off for far, far too long. On June 5th I came within a coin toss of committing suicide. I still haven’t wrapped my head around the depth of this, but I’ll tell you what I can, and perhaps you may have some insight I hadn’t delved into yet. All I know is that if I had willfully wanted to commit suicide, I did everything right.

On December 7th of 2016 I left my wife of almost 24 years. We’d had our problems, and I’d up and left her before. Seems I have a propensity for jumping ship and into the arms of other ladies. Just ask all 4 of my wives. I had a bad habit of talking crap about them – whether it was even remotely true or not – and then justifying it to bail. Bad habit. This time it wasn’t just leaving her, though. I had a 3-year old granddaughter, Laie “Lulu” Harding, in the Children’s Hospital in Birmingham, Alabama, with stage 4 Neuroblastoma cancer. From the time of Lulu’s diagnosis, I had been camped out at the hospital by her side and by her Mom’s side. I left Lulu while she was fighting this horrible monster and flew out to Washington State. It was justified in my mind. That was where my true soul mate was. I knew that if things with Lulu got worse I could always fly back. But I slipped 2,500 miles away into an enchanted land of water and mountains.

The first thing I did was stop taking my 60mg of daily Prozac. I’d battled depression my entire life, but out here I was sure I didn’t need it. Who needs medicine in Paradise? For 2 months I was as clean as I’d ever been. I had smoked marijuana almost daily since the 70s with a few respites, but out here in Washington, where you can go into a store and buy it legally, I didn’t. Also, I smoked cigarettes my entire life except for 7 years after my heart attack in 2010. But when Lulu was admitted to the hospital I found myself around a lot of smokers, and in my weakness and grief gave in and started back, only to quit again out West. I was in control of myself for the first time, and was determined to enjoy this bliss.

Something that I cannot divulge publicly happened the end of February that caused a discomfort in me, and split the single-mindedness I had enjoyed. Nothing unusual or negative had reared its head, no reason I could point my finger to, but it caused a sort of melancholia, as if a weight were laying on my heart. I did my best to hide it, but within a couple of weeks I knew I had to leave. I latched onto a lame excuse and used it, then began planning to implement my escape. I was doing what I had been doing all my life. Running. It was more important than every love I’d ever had all put together. That was why, on Easter morning, as this marvelous woman begged me to stay, I told her everything had already been set and nothing could stop me. I was terrified that if I gave her even one more day I’d be unable to run, and therefore unable to live with myself. I couldn’t anyway, especially not being in control. I had been slave to something or another for far too long. In my head and in my heart, I wanted to just escape. I wanted to smoke. I wanted to get high. I wanted to bury myself. I wanted it all to be about me and what I wanted. But at the time I had no idea this was the reason. I thought my motive true, pure, divinely inspired.  Isn’t it funny how in the moment a person can believe he is wise and justified, and then later look back only to realize what a load of horsecrap he’d been shoveling himself? That was the story of my life, except I hadn’t really, really reached that later stage. Oh, I truly believed myself sincere. But I’d neglected to do one vital thing: submit to Christ, let Him lead my steps, instead of leading my own. There’s an enormous difference between understanding this in your head and in your heart. Make sure, reader, that you take this to heart. Literally.

So, I left, devastating completely someone who loved me without reservation, someone who loved me intensely and with all her heart. Now I had managed to run out on a 24-year marriage, and a relationship that hadn’t even had a chance to mature. I immediately went to the nearest pot shop and bought $500 of marijuana, then next door and picked up two packs of cigarettes and a lighter, then headed east to my paternal ancestral home in the Quad Cities on the banks of the Mississippi River: Moline, Rock Island, Davenport and Bettendorf. I have two cousins and a 93-year-old dear aunt June there. This is where I set my sights. I wanted to know my father’s side of the family, to walk the streets my father had, and settle down.

I have always had a special inner bond with my cousin Dana. He has a sharp, brilliant mind, and every time we touch base inspiration is born. He’s a steel worker by trade, but is a natural virtuoso with piano and guitar, as well as having a cinematographer and director’s mind. I was excited to begin collaborating with him over a TV series we had come up with, and knew that together we could make so brilliant and fresh that the industry would sit up and take notice. Unfortunately, I’d begun baking my brain with pot again and consequently dumbing down to the point of blunt stupidity. I didn’t know it at the time, but from April until just now in October, I wouldn’t write more than just a few paragraphs.

It was such an immense joy to see my beautiful aunt and two cousins! I randomly drove around the streets of the Quad Cities, and looked forward to memorizing its streets and businesses. It was incredible seeing the mighty Mississippi River every day. I occasionally visited my Aunt June, but my cousin Dana worked during the day and was involved in directing a short film in the evening, so I rarely saw him. My other cousin Monte is a very quiet person, and it took me awhile to get to know him. I quickly learned that there was tension between Dana and Aunt June, and the more I tried to play the role of peacemaker the worse it got. I won’t get into the details, except to say it broke my heart.

With the help of a few very special, caring people attached to the VA, I was soon in an apartment in Rock Island. Except it turned out to be the place of my near destruction. It was up three flights of stairs – a huge challenge for my bad hips. Also, my heart and lungs could only afford me two trips up and down without a sizable break. So, I began to go out every day for just a few things. The only furniture in the studio apartment was a single bed given to me by a charity organization attached to the VA. My cousin Dana and I went to Habitat for Humanity and picked up a glass computer desk and old leather swivel chair. That was it.

There was also no air conditioning. I had three fans, and only two of the windows had screens. I spent many, many tremendously hot days sitting in the chair with sweat pouring from me while stifling air circulated around me. I smoked weed from wake up to pass out and didn’t write a lick. Everything I did only worsened my depression. I began to watch holocaust documentaries and other horrific stories. As I said before, if I wanted to set myself up for suicide, I was doing everything right. I harbored tremendous guilt and shame and self-loathing and self-hatred and abject helplessness, and these feelings magnified daily.

So, it was that day when I looked across the room and saw my belt hung up on a nail. It came to me that the kindest, most humane thing I could do for everyone involved was to end my miserable life. I’d heard quite a bit about hanging deaths and knew they could get messy, so I devised a plan to wear multiple pairs of underwear and then duct taping them to my legs and waist to make it easier to first responders. I already knew that I just had to cinch the belt around my neck, hang the loose end of the belt over the top of the door, wedge it in there and then just let go. I was going to duct tape my hands together also, afraid they would deceive me in the moment and thwart my plan. My legs were certainly not strong enough to lift me up, so I did not worry about them. As I contemplated the act, a peace came upon me – one I had not known for a long, long time. I looked at my calendar and chose the 5th of June. I knew my cousin Dana always went to bed around 9, and his phone would go to voicemail, so after that time I’d leave a message on his phone telling him to send an ambulance to my location when he woke the next day and turned his phone back on, long after the deed was done. It was all set. I felt a sense of calm determination and took it as a sign from God that this was the best thing for me and all those in my life.

The evening of the 4th I went down my contact list and began calling my closest friends with the pretense of just touching base. It all went smoothly until one of them (I won’t name them for their own privacy) picked something up in my voice and asked me if anything was wrong. When I said all was great, they told me in so many words to cut the crap and confess. I still denied any problems, but my friend told me I had to PROMISE that I would get help. Just to appease them, I promised. Little did I know that this flippant promise would plague me like a pebble in a shoe.

On the day of my suicide I had an appointment at the VA in Bettendorf, Iowa with the MOVE program, a weight loss group that met twice a month. The appointment was 3pm. As I drove there, and as I sat in the waiting room of the VA clinic, this promise nagged me more and more. I was certain I wanted to end my life, but if nothing else, I tried to keep my promises to my friends. A heaviness sat upon my chest, and I wanted to jump up and run out of there as fast as I could, but it kept me rooted to my chair. I and the others were called back to the hour long meeting, but I to this day have no idea what was said in there, because my mind and heart were balancing life and death. It felt as if I were rolling a dice and waiting to see what the results were.

And then I knew I had to tell someone there I needed help. As soon as the meeting was over I rushed to the reception desk and could barely get the words out through my anguished tears. Within a couple of minutes, I was whisked into a counselor’s office, a nurse practitioner’s office and the doctor’s office in that order, and poured my heart out to them. I knew if I left there I would go through with it. They did, too, so an ambulance was called and I was taken to a local hospital and placed in an observation room. By this time, I could not stop crying, as if a sea of hopelessness and grief were pouring out of me.

Within the hour I was placed in another ambulance and began the hour drive to the VA hospital in Iowa City, with no idea what would happen to me. The ER doctor at the civilian hospital told me I was a good candidate for electroshock therapy, and this scared me to death. There was NO way I would let someone juice my brain. If he said it to give me a slight sense of empowerment, it certainly worked.

When we arrived at the Iowa City VA hospital, I was taken by stretcher to the top floor and placed into a locked ward. It was quiet and calm when I arrived at midnight. I was taken to a single bed room at the end of one of the halls by a pleasant but serious nurse and told to change into a pair of scrubs. I had now gone from blubbering to a state of near catatonia.

She asked me point blank, “Do you want to commit suicide?”

Without hesitation I answered “Yes.”

The nurse stripped the sheets and pillow cases from my bed and replaced them with a rough woolen blanket just big enough to cover me. It was made in such a way that I couldn’t make a knot out of it if I tried. She then took down the shower curtain in the bathroom, rendering the room suicide-proof. The nurse instructed me to try and get some sleep, and since it was so late I need not worry about getting up when the others were awakened. I lay down on the hard bed and covered up with the scratchy blanket while the nurse sat just outside my room with the door open, so she could see me. I would have a shadow nurse for the next two days. That night I fell into a fitful sleep.

When I did wake up my heart and mind still felt like concrete. I had no desire to get out of bed. Unfortunately, the nurse (a different one) had other things planned for me. She took me to a large day room with hard, plastic furniture so heavy it would take three of me to lift one. There were four round tables bolted to the floor, a huge TV, and a computer console against the back wall that looked like an arcade game out of the 80s. I saw eight or nine men seated throughout the enormous room, watching short clips of the ocean calmly lapping the shore, reading books from a substantial collection in shelves around the TV, gathering around one of the tables with coloring books and a coffee can full of crayons and markers, and otherwise wandering about or relaxing in one of the oversized chairs. I immediately went to the table farthest from the others and sat with my arms on it cradling my head. No one approached me, which was fine, because I was afraid they were all violent psycho killers. The nurse sat across from me silently.

Lunch arrived on a large tray cart and all the men came to the tables. I refused mine and asked to go back to my room. There I stayed the rest of the day and night. Throughout that first day, though, I was visited by an almost steady stream of nurse and doctors asking me all sorts of questions about my history and state of mind. I constantly asked to be able to smoke at least one cigarette, thinking this would lessen my feeling of being trapped, but was as constantly denied. The first 48 hours were horrible to me. I regretted my decision to ask for help, and told the staff this. Actually, what I was doing turned out to be the one thing that freed me from my suicidal ideations and depression, and set me on a new course of spiritual growth: honesty. Some force within me – that I know now to be the Holy Spirit – compelled me to tell the truth about everything, no matter how painful. Those first two days I thought I had nothing to lose, and told the psychiatrists about my childhood sexual abuse, my drug and alcohol abuse, my multiple marriages – all which I cheated on – and my propensity to run when things got too hot for me. I even told them about my brief membership in the Church of Satan during my late teen years, and my fifteen year relationship with the occidental satsang religion Eckankar. I told them I was a Sufi Muslim for years before converting to Christianity, but was a Christian only minimally. It felt satisfactory sharing my past to someone who wouldn’t openly judge me. Still, I felt dead inside and only wanted to put an end to my miserable, failed life.

In my next blog post, I will show how I was taken through a transformation I had no way of anticipating, and how I was brought to where I am now.


Daily Devotion 10-19-17


James 1:21

21.   Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls.


What God said to me: Keep the old man dead, already, and listen to Me!

Daily Devotion 10-18-17


Matthew 15:11

  1. Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man.


What God said to me:

  The more you speak, the less you hear. Stop talking so much, and start listening to Me!